Exploring the Concept of “Being Deserving”
Imagine a world where the pursuit of your dreams doesn’t hinge on proving your worth, but rather on unlocking the inherent deservingness that pulses through your very existence.
Today, I want to explore the concepts of ‘deserving’ and ‘worthiness’ — concepts that echo in our communities and hearts, yet often remain covered in mystery.
What if the true connection lies not in earning, but in remembering?
Come journey through my curious mind as I explore the concepts of “being deserving” and “worthiness.”
Yesterday I saw a tweet from @awesomemikaila on X:
“This is also what I mean when I say Leo Mars has to FIGHT to prove they deserve the attention they get.”
As I read the tweet, I became curious about the idea of “deserve, or being deserving.”
I feel like a lot of times we say things like, “We’re deserving,” “You’re deserving,” or “This person is not deserving.”
But what does that even mean?
The concept intrigues me because I’m unsure if the significance lies in our deserving or if it’s more about our worthiness, — or, whether any of this matters in determining our qualification for something to unfold in our lives.
I don’t think I am concerned about worthiness, or whether I deserve something when going after my desires or asking for anything.
Then again, I do feel spoiled by Spirit so maybe subconsciously I believe I am deserving because I am a favorite. *shrug* Just spitballing here.
Regardless, I hear the term quite often and now it’s giving me a bit of a pause.
To be clear, I have used terms like ‘deserving’ or ‘worthy;’ I realize it’s not resonance I feel but common language within my communities —
When I think about it, often when I say it, it’s not because I believe peoplehave to know they are worthy or deserving to receive, I just think it’s innate, and I say it to remind them.
This appears to be happening subconsciously; I am processing it as I write.
Regardless, Miss Curious over here, got curious: What does it mean to be deserving? What does it mean to feel like you’re worthy?
I rarely think about these things because they feel so obvious.
Like, of course, I’m worthy. Of course, I’m deserving. But what does THAT even mean?
It just feels so absolute in my body.
Like, it just feels so obvious.
There’s no tense energy behind it. There are no big vibrations there to make it seem like it’s something more than part of my existence; part of my being.
The idea of being worthy, or being deserving feels as obvious as telling me, “You are a black woman.” It feels like a part of me.
I don’t know.
However, I was curious about the idea of being deserving.
I did not seem to resonate with it on the same frequency as many, so I decided to explore it with ChatGPT.
from Unsplash.EXPLORING WITH ChatGPT
I want to kind of explore that. What does it mean to be deserving of something? How do you become deserving?
Being deserving is a complex and nuanced concept that often intertwines with feelings of worthiness.
In the realm of personal development and self-belief, understanding what it means to be deserving involves acknowledging your inherent value, recognizing your capabilities, and embracing the idea that positive outcomes are not only possible but also rightfully attainable.
Deservingness goes beyond mere entitlement; it’s about a sense of merit and worth.
Here are some aspects to consider:
1. Inherent Value: Recognizing that as an individual, you have intrinsic value and worthiness simply by existing. It’s about understanding that your existence matters and contributes to the tapestry of life.
2. Acknowledging Efforts: Being deserving often correlates with recognizing the efforts you invest in your goals. It involves understanding that hard work, dedication, and perseverance contribute to your deserving nature.
3. Self-Compassion: Deservingness also entails practicing self-compassion. Acknowledge your imperfections, learn from mistakes, and treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you might extend to others.
4. Belief in Potential: Embracing the belief that you have the potential to achieve your goals and aspirations. It’s about trusting in your abilities and understanding that success is not reserved for a select few but is attainable by anyone willing to put in the effort.
5. Releasing Guilt: Often, feelings of undeservingness stem from guilt or self-doubt. It’s essential to recognize and release these negative emotions, allowing space for positive self-perception and acceptance.
Becoming deserving involves an ongoing journey of self-discovery and self-love.
It requires challenging limiting beliefs, reframing negative thoughts, and cultivating a mindset that acknowledges your worthiness. It’s not about proving yourself to others but, more importantly, acknowledging and embracing your own potential.
Ultimately, the importance lies not just in being deserving but in understanding and accepting your innate worthiness. It’s about recognizing that positive outcomes are not only within reach but are also a natural extension of your inherent value as an individual.
Thank you. This is really helpful. And I feel like this makes sense. And that’s another thing about being human, right?
It’s like we have these words and these terms, and we just kind of throw them in the air, but they have meaning, and to everyone, they probably have a different meaning.
Like, for me — I’m like, well, what does it mean to be deserving?
Like, even if I don’t think I’m deserving, I still think I’m deserving, in a weird way.
And I think it goes back to this idea: even if I don’t think I’m worthy, God does.
You’re welcome. It’s true; these concepts can hold different meanings for each person, shaped by individual experiences and perspectives. The interplay between deservingness and worthiness is indeed complex.
Your insight into feeling deserving even when you might doubt your worthiness is a profound observation.
The connection to a higher belief, like your mention of God, often plays a significant role in shaping our sense of worth and deservingness. Trusting in a higher purpose can provide a powerful foundation for self-acceptance and belief in one’s inherent value. It’s a beautiful reminder of the multifaceted nature of being human and the diverse ways we find meaning and purpose.
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I thought more about what Chat GPT shared, and my own experience with the concept of “being deserving.”
From my lens, ChatGPT is getting at the idea of Remembering Your TRUTH!
Remember your Divine essence, because once you connect back to that, you accept your innate worthiness!
You are worthy because you exist — type vibes!
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It makes total sense to me!
The idea of `being deserving’ does not exist in my world, it’s a thing said, but it’s not something I experience as a pain point.
So, I guess I never thought about it. For some reason today I decided to explore these concepts with ChatGPT, and it did open my eyes to what was being said.
It provided me with a different perspective.
When people are saying, “You don’t have it because you don’t think you’re worthy,” in essence, they are saying “You forgot your TRUTH.”
“You don’t remember that you’re worthy of all of this, and you can have it.”
They are asking that the person wake up, and remember their birthright.
This was eye-opening for me.
I also looked up the definition of “deserving.”
The dictionary defines ‘deserving’ as worthy of being treated in a particular way, typically of being given assistance.
Even looking at the definition from the dictionary — of course, you deserve to be assisted — every human does — no?
As I write this I smile because I can feel the complexity of the concept.
I don’t resonate with the notion of “being deserving” or “worthy” in a way that suggests I need to be or feel more than my current state for it to apply to me.
Whatever I want, I am deserving of.
Even if I get an opportunity and I thought I wasn’t deserving of it, I am still deserving: because, why not?
Anything that says I am not worthy, is not true!
Also! How did we get here as a society? You don’t need to answer that!
Who decides who is deserving of what?
Where is the rubric?
When all is said and reflected upon, I’m reminded that our journey is not about proving or earning, but rather about remembering.
The concept of being deserving is not a rigid structure, but a fluid recognition of our innate worth.
It’s about acknowledging the divine essence within.
May the conversation shift from finding worthiness to remembering it — acknowledging the divine spark within each of us, a manifestation of something greater.
I LOVE US!
I am thankful for this remembrance!
WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS?
xx,
CHARLiiE