Choosing Alignment: Walking Away from Unfulfilling Spaces
Written Friday, 2/23/24, in the evening, in NYC
I’ve stayed in situations and relationships sometimes because it felt easier.
It felt easier than starting over.
It felt easier than having another talk.
It felt easier not to ask questions I knew I knew the answer to.
It felt easier to feel comfortable in the discomfort I knew.
Recently, I was thinking about someone I had “dated.” I was thinking about all the reasons I was not into them, and my Higher Self said to me:
“Don’t worry about that. Stop focusing on what you believe they lack. You felt like they weren’t correct for you. That’s enough. That’s your truth.”
And I have been sitting with that since.
Photo by kevin turcios on Unsplash
Today, I started to get this heaviness in my eyes. It was no sensation besides that.
Usually, when this happens, something is ending, news is coming in, or someone I had just spoken with was carrying a dense energy. I stayed with the energy.
Eventually, the thought came in that it was time to end a business relationship I had.
I had been contemplating since December whether to stay or go. And it appears today was the day.
I said to myself, “Okay, I will do it today.”
Today is the day I will stop procrastinating, advise them of my decision, and accept that I will have to pick up where they left off.
Initially, I was excited about making the choice, because seriously, that relationship was not feeling good. I stayed because it felt easier than having to pick up where they left off.
As I was on the phone with them, I realized the work that I would now have to do… NOW I feel HOT. I feel angry.
Not angry at them, but myself.
I felt frustrated. What did I get myself into? *face to palm*
Again, I started thinking of all the reasons why I decided to leave, and again, Spirit said:
“It’s okay. The relationship was not correct for you. That’s enough.”
I think about all the times I stayed in situations because I didn’t want to deal with leaving and having to deal with the discomfort of the moment, but the truth was… staying often did more harm than good.
It prolonged the inevitable. And kept me in energy that I don’t think served my highest good. I have no idea how things will work out from here. But I do know that no matter what happens, I can handle it.
Has anything ever been too heavy to deal with, at the moment it was happening? I don’t know.
When I think about my life, I have always been able to deal with what came, no matter how “big and scary” it appeared.
As I thought about these messages from Spirit, it seems like there is a theme for me in this season — stop staying in spaces that you know aren’t correct for you.
It does not matter how much I invested. How much I want it to work. If it’s not feeling good, or not in alignment with my values, it needs to go.
It’s not that the person or thing is good or bad… or something is wrong with them, NO… No… No…it’s just not the correct fit for me.
I smile as I write that last sentence.
There is beauty in that. Love in that.
Peace in this acceptance.
My word for the 2024 calendar year is ELEVATED… and just thinking about being in a space where, when things don’t align, I let it go… is so exciting and empowering, and very aligned with the energy of ELEVATE, that I want to be in.
Early this evening I had said to myself: I am TRUTH.
I put a reminder in my phone every day at 3:35 PM ish to remind me of this TRUTH that I want to embody.
I know that when we start embodying new energy, and we speak life over ourselves, sometimes it may seem as if our life is being turned upside down, but in reality, things are being shifted so that it can align with who we are being; the energy we are vibrating at. The energy we are calling in, and wanting to stabilize.
I AM TRUTH — may be calling in change.
AND GET THIS
I ended up seeing that guy today; the one I mentioned earlier in this article. I had not seen him for about a month, though he hangs near where I live.
I waved and kept it moving; I felt no sensation come up. I was thankful for the ease of that.
But as I think about the experience I just had with ending the business relationship, and all that I experienced today, I smile.
I did cry first while starting this article — praise God — sometimes we need to release the energy of what was, so we can have a clean slate to start again.
This journey of coming home to ourselves, this journey of remembrance, this journey of acceptance… It can feel like A LOT.
And that feeling can sometimes be so heavy that it paralyzes you.
I am not a person who experiences emotions or is in my feelings for too long, so I knew it would pass through.
But in the moment of overwhelming fear, anger, and/or frustration, it can feel like we won’t get through.
BUT WE ALWAYS DO.
If this article can share any reminders to us, it’s that we can live in alignment with our values. We can cultivate a life that supports the version of this world we want to live in. We can pick and choose what we say yes to.
We can say yes, and later choose to say, “This isn’t working for me.”
Then choose to walk away.
NOTHING in this world is so permanent that we can’t decide again…
IT’S ALWAYS A CHOICE.
Even if it seems like a sh*tty one.
May you embrace the liberating power of saying “no” to what doesn’t align, recognizing that letting go is not a sign of weakness but a courageous act of self-love. Your life is a canvas, and every choice you make contributes to the masterpiece you are creating.
So, stand in your truth, be the architect of your experiences, and let the energy of authenticity guide your path.
As you release what no longer serves you, you make space for the magic to unfold.
Remember, it’s always a choice, and in each choice lies the potential to elevate your life to new heights.
May your journey be filled with the clarity of purpose, the strength of self-awareness, and the boundless possibilities that come with aligning your life with your deepest values.
You are the author of your story, and with each intentional choice, you script a narrative that reflects the authenticity and brilliance of your soul.
Here’s to choosing alignment, embracing change, and living a life that resonates with the song of your heart.
I LOVE US!! 🤗 Happy Full Moon in Virgo!
xx, CHARLiiE
If you’re in a space of avoiding the inevitable, may I share these gentle reminders::
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings:
Recognize and honor the emotions you’re experiencing. Avoiding the inevitable often comes with a mix of fear, discomfort, and uncertainty. It’s okay to feel these emotions.
2. Accept Impermanence:
Understand that change is a natural part of life. Embrace the impermanence of situations, relationships, and experiences. Recognize that endings can be the catalyst for new beginnings.
3. Trust Your Intuition:
Listen to your inner guidance. If a lingering feeling suggests that something needs to change or come to an end, trust that intuition. Your inner wisdom often knows what’s best for your growth and well-being.
4. Release Guilt and Judgment:
Let go of guilt associated with ending or changing situations. Understand that your needs, values, and circumstances evolve, and it’s okay to reassess what aligns with your current self.
5. Embrace the Learning:
See every experience, even challenging ones, as an opportunity for learning and growth. Reflect on the lessons you’ve gained and appreciate the wisdom that comes from navigating change.
6. Practice Self-Compassion:
Be kind to yourself during transitions. Recognize that it’s human to feel a range of emotions during change. Offer yourself some compassion.
7. Focus on the Present:
Ground yourself in the present moment. Avoiding the inevitable often involves dwelling on future uncertainties. Bring your attention back to the current moment, where you have the power to make choices aligned with your well-being.
8. Seek Support:
Reach out to friends, family, or a trusted support system. Sharing your thoughts and feelings with others can provide valuable perspectives and emotional support during transitions.
9. Define Your Values:
Clarify your core values and assess whether the current situation aligns with them. Understanding your values can guide decisions and bring clarity to whether something is worth holding onto or releasing.
10. Celebrate Courage:
Recognize that facing the inevitable with courage is an act of strength. It takes bravery to acknowledge when something is no longer serving you and to take steps toward a more authentic and fulfilling path.
Remember, navigating change is a process, and everyone’s journey is unique. Give yourself the grace and space to move through the transitions in your own time and way. You have the resilience to embrace the inevitable and create a path that aligns with your authentic self.
I am always rooting for you.