Exploring Authentic Communication: Navigating Words, Energy, and Intuition
Have you ever been talking to someone and something felt off? They were saying words, but something about the words was not hitting.
Maybe the words felt empty? Like, there was no value there. No emotional connection. No energy is given to the words being spoken.
Yeah! I’ve been in those situations too.
And I also have been the person performing; saying one thing, but internally experiencing another.
I could feel the manipulation coming through me — sometimes, I wondered if the listener could tell.
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Words have meaning, and when we are speaking, we create a vibration, a vibration that some of us, on the other end, can feel, interpret, and understand.
I was around 18 years old, the first time I can remember acknowledging my ability to interpret energy. At the time, I just thought I was magical.
I intuitively knew when someone was not telling the truth. When they were saying something, but internally feeling something else.
I could identify people’s vulnerabilities when they would speak.
I would pray that I didn’t use what I intuitively knew about people, to hurt them. I was concerned about taking advantage of what I knew. Being able to manipulate them, and get what I want. Or get them angry, whenever I felt like it.
Despite this concern, I don’t recall ever causing too much damage. Over the years, my understanding of energy has grown, and my confidence in my relationship with it has evolved.
With that, let’s delve into the authenticity of energy — its inherent inability to be feigned. These frequencies serve as unfiltered expressions of our truth. Additionally, we’ll uncover strategies for developing our capacity to connect with and interpret the vibrations they carry.
When was the last time you said something you didn’t actually mean?
Maybe you said it out of habit. Or you said it because you wanted to avoid a certain reaction from the listener.
What did it feel like? Did you feel connected to what you were saying? Did it feel like what you were saying mattered? Could you feel that what you were saying wasn’t your truth?
I think I stopped trusting what people said and started paying more attention to their presentation. I started to notice the nuances when they communicated — tones, body language, context, and the words they would speak.
I think about the amount of times I’ve noticed that I was not connected to what I was saying. There was this “nothingness” about it — maybe you know what I mean.
It felt light but hollow.
Yes, hollow that’s the word that comes to me.
I’d use these experiences as data, to understand what my intentions were in those moments. To understand how my words and actions didn’t match the energy I was experiencing.
And similarly, I have noticed these same experiences through others.
I especially noticed it in my romantic relationships when my partner wasn’t comfortable being vulnerable.
When they would habitually say they were fine, but their energy was giving “sadness.”
Where their fear of my concerns would express as redirecting the focus on me, and what they felt I had done wrong.
When they would get hyper-fixated on a word I used because they started to feel discomfort.
As I write that out, I guess when we think about it — it’s coping.
When the words and energy don’t align it may be a sign of that individual coping.
interesting. Let’s explore that a bit.
When I think about my experience with people and reflect on them, oftentimes the reason there was incongruence between their words and energy, stemmed from discomfort, fear, or a desire to conceal their true feelings.
The incongruence indicated underlying emotions, intentions, and discrepancies in their communication.
I also recall social expectations and people pleasing had me expressing out of alignment. Along with internal conflicts, uncertainty, or attempts to maintain a specific image.
Mmmmm that is quite interesting.
According to the Google Docs dictionary, communication is defined as the imparting or exchanging of information or news.
Some of its synonyms include transmission, imparting, conveying, presenting, relay, circulating, broadcasting…
So what can we do?
From my perspective, understanding how communication is processed helps decode the complexities of human expression.
Clearly, people’s feelings are theirs to process and deal with. But what can we do as a listener, as a fellow human, and as a loved one to encourage open, honest, and authentic communication?
How can we foster an open and non-judgmental environment that encourages honest and authentic communication?
I believe we all have our style of communication. But I can share what I believe has worked for what I would consider, my authentic connections:
Demonstrating Empathy: When I share my experiences, it often evokes empathy from others, making them feel understood and more comfortable expressing themselves.
Validate Feelings: Feelings are not facts, but I do believe they are guideposts. When we validate someone’s feelings, it creates a supportive and non-judgmental atmosphere, making them feel heard and understood. When individuals feel acknowledged and accepted, they are more likely to trust and open up. This trust helps people to feel safe expressing their thoughts and emotions without fear of criticism or dismissal. Validation builds a foundation for authentic dialogue and encourages a more open exchange of ideas and feelings.
Express Genuine Interest, and if you’re not interested, that’s okay too.
Get to know your people. Notice when they are uncomfortable or overwhelmed. Sometimes people won’t notice the shift in their speech, but you will… Do they need a break? maybe you can ask them if they need a moment. In other cases, they may just want to vent, and you can allow them that space to share their thoughts, without judging what is coming up for them (if you have the capacity and want to, that is).
Avoid Interrupting: I am someone who might interrupt while someone is speaking, but that’s only in certain relationships LOL. However, I do believe that not interrupting goes a long way in building healthy and honest connections.
Use reflective listening and ask open-ended questions. This is about being curious and remaining curious.
Sharing Personal Experiences : There is something about connecting with people by bringing your humanity to the conversation. I think many times we can get caught in our experience and feel alone. When we share our experiences it can help build trust by showcasing vulnerability and genuine engagement. This openness fosters empathy, breaks down barriers, and normalizes diverse perspectives, inspiring authenticity. Additionally, personal stories provide valuable context, contributing to a well-rounded and inclusive conversation.
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Recognizing the incongruence between my words and energy has led me to develop practices that help align my communication with my inner world.
I’ve listed a few here:
Practice Mindfulness: Start paying attention to how you feel when you’re talking. Do the words you’re speaking convey what you’re feeling and desiring to say? Maybe you notice you get nervous when speaking about specific topics… and so you may be hesitant to say what you mean.
Consider how this is impacting your relationship. Is this relationship authentic? Is this relationship healthy? Do you feel safe in this relationship? If not, is there a way to address your experience and see if you all can create change in your dynamic?
Reflection and Self-Awareness: Reflection offers the benefit of heightened self-awareness. When you take time to reflect on past interactions it allows you to gain insights into the alignment between your words and energy. This self-awareness becomes a powerful tool for refining and improving the congruence of your communication over time.
Be Present: A major part of being able to interpret energy, and connect with what is being communicated, is by being present. Pay attention to the speaker as they speak, and as you’re listening and preparing to speak.
Energy does not die, it changes form, so notice when the energy changes during your encounter. For some, you can pick up the subtle energy within your body.
From my experience, it will feel like a deep unspoken knowing you have– an innate understanding that feels undeniable. It’s an inner guidance that aligns with your truth You won’t want to question it; it resonates as a truth you instinctively recognize within yourself.
Develop the Ability to Trust Yourself: Cultivating self-trust is integral to my effective communication journey. I honor my deep knowing without questioning it, recognizing it as an intrinsic part of who I am. Navigating the world involves continually checking the energy of situations. Through experience, my connection with intuition and body has deepened, solidifying my trust in the energetic messages I receive.
If you are currently developing your trust in your intuition; keep building it. You will notice the change over time. Start where you are, and don’t worry about how it looks when others are able to do it because your way may be different, and it’s correct for you!
And let me say this… I believe we all can interpret and understand energy. I think whether we do or don’t has to do with our consciousness level, and whether we are open to receiving it.
I mentioned that I was 18 years old when I remember noticing my ability to have this intuitive knowing about people through energy. At that time I was not necessarily “woke,” I was not aware of how the ego operated, I did not meditate, I knew nothing about chakras, and I was “busy.”
I share this to say, please don’t think that your ability to tap into this heightened perception is dependent on being spiritual or doing spiritual things.
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Some may read what I am explaining and have a label for what I am discussing. They may consider this as a trait of being a highly sensitive person or “sensitive.”
And I do resonate with a lot of different labels, however, I don’t think the labels matter too much here.
Mainly because our experience may dictate which word resonates more.
I have heard readers call my ability “psychic,” and others chalked it up to me being an Empath. I have also heard this discussed as a heightened sense of emotional intelligence or intuition.
Regardless of what you decide to call it… we can develop it and allow it to support us in this lifetime.
Start by opening yourself to it.
We are a manifestation of God/Source, what is in me, is also available to you
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The ability to read or interrupt energy is an evolving skill that can be honed with conscious effort and practice. Here are some strategies to help refine this valuable skill:
1. Self-awareness: Understand your own emotions and how they influence your thoughts and actions. This awareness forms the foundation for recognizing emotions in others.
2. Active Listening: Focus on truly listening to others, not just hearing their words. Pay attention to tone, body language, and overall non-verbal cues.
3. Empathy: Put yourself in others’ shoes to better understand their perspectives and emotions. This helps build a more profound connection with people.
4. Mindfulness: Practice being present in the moment. Mindfulness techniques can enhance your ability to observe and interpret subtle cues in real time.
5. Reflective Practice: Regularly reflect on your interactions, considering how emotions played a role. Identify patterns and areas for improvement.
6. Study Non-Verbal Communication: I am obsessed with humans. I am obsessed with how we behave and express ourselves. I recommend learning about body language, facial expressions, and other non-verbal cues. Understanding these aspects can sharpen your intuitive skills.
7. Trust Your Instincts: Allow yourself to trust your gut feelings (or whichever way your body speaks to you). Overthinking can sometimes cloud intuition, so learn to listen to your inner sense. A great tool for this is the HUMAN DESIGN SYSTEM (I’ll be posting information about this soon, but let me know if you’re interested).
8. Consider Cultural Differences: Diverse backgrounds can influence how people express themselves.
Remember: Developing emotional intelligence or intuition is an ongoing process, and consistent effort can lead to significant improvement over time. For some, this is a natural way of being and already active for them, for others, it may be dormant, or not as obvious — yet, there is opportunity for all of us.
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If you’re interested in practical tips to become more attuned to the non-verbal cues we talked about, consider:
Active Observation: Pay close attention to facial expressions, body language, and gestures to gain insights beyond spoken words.
Tune into Tone: Focus on the tone of voice, pitch, and rhythm, as they often convey emotions and nuances that words alone might not express.
Context Awareness: Consider the context of the conversation, as it can significantly influence the intended meaning behind the words.
Empathetic Listening: Practice empathetic listening by trying to understand the speaker’s perspective and emotions, fostering a deeper connection.
Ask Clarifying Questions: Seek clarification when something seems incongruent. Respectfully asking for more information can reveal hidden sentiments.
Trust Your Intuition: Trust your gut feelings or inner guidance about the conversation. If something feels off, there might be an underlying message that needs exploration.
Look for Consistency: Note consistency between verbal and non-verbal cues. When words and energy align, it often indicates genuine communication.
Cultural Sensitivity: Be mindful of cultural differences in non-verbal communication to avoid misinterpretation based on diverse norms and practices.
Before I go
This is an idea I have been journeying with…
I believe a big part of my ability to understand energy is due to patterns. I’ve said this time and time again, and I will say it here:
Many people express the same frequency, it is just expressed differently through words and actions.
Ever noticed someone complaining about what someone else is doing, but you noticed that they do a very similar thing?
Next time, pay attention to the energy of it, and see if you notice something familiar.
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We are more alike than we are different. And as an energy channeler, I am obsessed with energy and how much information it contains.
I’ve come to a place where I take most people’s words with a grain of salt. Not because I think they are intentionally attempting to deceive me, I just have learned that many people do not notice their patterns and/or where they stem from. They are so used to operating a certain way, that they don’t always give it much thought. So I like to consider that.
What about you? How do you resonate with the concept of interpreting and channeling energy? Have you noticed your words and energy being out of alignment?
Let’s talk about it in the comments!
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